Tori DaCosta is a businesswoman, coach, author, and speaker who focuses on empowering leaders to lead themselves well. Her work centers on helping individuals create impactful lives through the transformative power of ownership. As a leader in a Fortune 50 company and a mentor, Tori brings insight into the value of learning through experiences as she inspires others to become the best versions of themselves.

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Timestamps

(00:00:00) – Author and Coach Tori DaCosta sits down with O’Brien McMahon on the People Business Podcast.

(00:01:50) – What led Tori to write No Name Bastard.

(00:03:18) – How do leaders balance personal struggles and maintaining workplace expectations?

(00:05:48) – How did Tori change her workplace culture to make room for employees’ personal challenges?

(00:11:43) – The Control, Manage, Influence framework: what can we actually control?

(00:14:20) – Why begin the book with the theme of saying “no”?

(00:16:33) – What process helps clarify priorities?

(00:18:39) – How do you build consistent behaviors day after day, and quarter after quarter?

(00:19:18) – Where do people struggle most with saying “no”?

(00:21:56) – When is “no” not the right answer?

(00:22:42) – Are women more likely to hesitate about opportunities when they do not feel fully qualified?

(00:26:59) – What is the story behind Tori’s “But Did You Die?” T-shirt?

(00:32:16) – How can we recognize fear faster and engage with it instead of rationalizing avoidance?

(00:37:09) – What does “you get what you tolerate” mean?

(00:40:12) – How can leaders set boundaries without creating a robotic or punitive environment?

(00:43:00) – How can people handle when they feel like the “other” or as an outsider?

(00:51:54) – What final message would Tori like to leave with listeners?